As a queer adult, I can see how I would have benefitted when I was younger in having exposure to a wide array of perspectives and experiences, and in particular, exposure to queer content and queer culture.
As social beings in various forms of relationships, it’s very normal to want to live harmoniously with others. A mistake we might make, however, is bending too much out of our own lane in an attempt to satisfy the wants and desires of others; living too much for the satisfaction or contentment of someone else, we may no longer feel happy in our own life predicament.
Consciously tuning into activities or things that have that feel good quality and actively deciding to pursue them takes practice. Be patient with yourself on the journey. Self care is a ritual to partake in.
I get to actively create a reality where I’m able to interact with people in the ways that make sense for me. Additionally, it has allowed me to show up for people that I care about in ways that are uncharacteristic from within the dichotomy of friend vs. lover.
There is a root cause to the feelings we feel in our bodies. I found that once I was able to identify and label my physical feeling (little ball of dense dark twisty yarn in my chest), I was able to separate it from the thought that caused it
It’s like the ultimate test that I’ve kind of studied for but I definitely don’t know all the answers to. I can ‘prepare’ all I want, but I’ll never be fully ready because there’s no way that I ever possibly could be.
Much like when the trees shake their leaves loose with the blowing winds, I too shake loose the things that no longer serve me.
What I’ve come to realize is that I have a vast repertoire of personas; some I’m quite familiar with and others I haven’t had the privilege of meeting yet.
I’m not doomed to always suffer from feelings of inadequacy. I have power, strength, and the ability to make changes where I see fit.
If someone with a healthy self-esteem were a successful lion tamer, I would be an apprentice. I’m eager to learn, I’ve got some skills, and my heart is in the right place, but if I’m not careful I can still get my hand bit. I am, however, learning some invaluable lessons along the way.
Self-esteem is the invisible mechanism that regulates how we experience ourselves and our realities
Boundaries don’t have to be strict or permanent, but they should certainly be respected. When there is respect, trust, safety, and awareness are established. And who knows, in due time, you may even find yourself inviting someone back over to cross your fence and join you in your space.
By acknowledging the present reality, taking ownership of my feelings, and actively choosing to move forward, I’m allowing for what once was to become a more peaceful part of me.
I might have a hard time stepping up every time, but in the moments when I do, I'm teaching myself that it's possible.
Behind it all, I was the puppeteer; both the victim and the villain.
It feels bitter to hold on to conditions and restrictions. It feels better to let love flow.
Our inner worlds and outer experiences deserve our attention because they are intimately in communion with one another.
There is beauty in balance and in allowing energy to move naturally, especially in the ebb and flow of day-to-day life.
Emotional pain can rock our core and radiate through our entire being. We can allow this achey feeling to move through us with an intimate (and kind) examination of our thoughts and feelings.